So in the past months my ex, who happens to be an addict in recovery, was reaching out out of nowhere and after a long time. We started to exchange messages, but no face to face meet ups…this has happened before. I always kept my doors open. We do not really talk about the serious stuff and things we needed to clear out. Until i finally asked him what his intent for connecting we me was. I wanted to be clear what he wants and how i should operate in interactions w him. This is also an ex i stil deeply care abour. but i need to set distance if he is not clear what he wants and will end up using me. His reply was - he has no particular reason except people just naturally connect! To be honest an answer i did not like. I told him it was pointless because its not making me comfortable connecting with an ex with no specific reason. So i stopped talking to him again.
Interacting with him always leaves me confused, angry, sad and frustrated. But the truth is i really want to work things out with him. I believe though he has to be able to express that to me too. But he has not been doing that, been waiting years, and still he responds with - he is just reaching out for no particular reason.
Anyone experienced this? What to do?