Thanks for sharing @Fraser I know this is not an easy topic to confront or understand. My husband’s addiction was cocaine and it definitely comes hand-in-hand with porn/sex type addiction behavior - that’s a fact. More to that - now that my husband is not on cocaine daily re-learning what a sex life might be like is also challenging (hoorah! ugh!).
When driven by addiction for sure it’s the spontaneous, shiny and easy options that win 100%.
It’s actually because their rational / reasoning and decision making part of the brain is impaired #science.
Anyway, is there anyone right now who has influence over his behavior, health and wellbeing? Anyone who he might listen to?
I recommend tapping into a parent (a mom?) or logical friend who can step in to offer him some counsel. We’re happy to help them get ready to get involved here <3
And please take extra special care of yourself right now. I know this is a big storm to weather. Do you have people in your corner who can step up their support of you?