@Marigold I there 
My mom is an addict in her 60s who lives in Lake Elsinore about 4 hours away from me. I havenāt had much of a relationship with her until this past year with the help of the Village 
I realized that I didnāt want to regret not making more of an effort to feel connected to her in case anything happened to her. She lives a very volatile, unexpected life and things could go south fast with her. She can never stay in one place for long. My uncle described it as if she was on one side of the street she would just have to go to the other side of the street cuz she couldnāt stand being where she was anymore, and back and forth and so on. She has left so many rehabs Iāve lost count. Sheās been on the streets before too when no one would take her in because she was just too drunk. Iām glad she has like 1 or 2 people there that let her stay with them but time to time but itās hard to not really know where she is. Thankfully she does have a cell phone and we talk and text quiet often. 
Iāve been making it a point to really get to know her. What she liked to do for fun when she was younger? What kind of music she likes? Whatās her favorite meal to make? Does your mom like to cook? Maybe the next time you see her you can make her favorite meal together. Does she like going out in nature at all? Maybe take her to a beautiful scenic area where you can both just soak up the sun and breath the fresh air while you tell each other funny stories. Laughter is key 
Well I hope this helps a little and Iāll be praying that your mom becomes more receptive of the love and care you have for her. Hope the Christmas card idea goes well! 
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What if a loved one has no motivation to change?
carolzevallos
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Marigold
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Thanks for sharing @carolzevallos I imagine thatās hard, your mom moving around a lot 
Nice that she has a few people she can trust and a phone for texting - and you to build a relationship with ļø
I will keep trying, and loving. If my mom wants to receive it, itāll be there.