Your breaking point?

[momentsandlight]

My best advice is write down pros and cons to your line in the sand. If you can live with the cons, then draw that line and stick to it. If you don’t think you can live with the cons then try to adjust the line before you draw it.

That is great advice @Brenda_Allen. When setting boundaries, I agree it’s definitely important to make sure we’re okay with following through on taking care of ourselves if those boundaries are crossed. The lines in the sand are about us and what we need, not about them and how we can get them to change.

[Julie_Smith]

@Brenda_Allen Thank you for your comment here. I agree everyone needs to set their own boundaries. Some people want their loved one at home even in active use; others can’t or won’t do that. I know a mother whose son had been in jail (he was in his mid-40s). He went to live with her afterwards, and after living there for a few years, he overdosed on heroin & died in her home. She told me she had enabled him, and I said (I am a mom of a heroin user too), there is no right or wrong here - you must follow your heart.