Hi all, some quick history about my situation–I’m married to an alcoholic. We’ve been together for 16 years, the drinking started 10 years ago. I also grew up with alcoholic parents.
Something I really struggle with is speaking the truth about what is happening. If I go in our bedroom, and it smells like alcohol, I won’t say anything. If she seems manic or talking nonsense, I won’t say anything. If she’s highly emotional/angry, I won’t say anything. Inside, I am saying A LOT. But I don’t actually say anything to her. And I think that causes a lot of problems because I just keep it all inside.
I am fairly confident this is rooted in the fact that I grew up with alcoholic parents. The drinking and the fighting and the passing out was something we literally never discussed in my house when I was little. So I suspect that is what is keeping me from speaking up now. But I don’t know how to get past that.
Any thoughts or suggestions? Can anyone relate?