I am feeling so happy because my son (29) visited my home for the first time since the Pandemic began, and since we both learned a TON about how to be with ourselves it was a wonderful reunion. I had some pretty heavy things to talk to about with him which needed to be done eye to eye. [We are a 50’s style-cornucopia family of fun addiction highlights]…
I took the **Course **last fall, and it helped me reframe and refocus my role in his world. (butt out buttinski)
Many months later I had a great one on one sesh with Clare to refine how I wanted to talk with my son. etc… about a specific conversation. That was so helpful for me.
I asked him for permission to talk about this heavy topic and would he be open to talking about it.
I asked him what his plan was, he started telling me his “Grand Plan” and I was more like, “No, I mean, what’s your sobriety plan for this weekend?” He said, “oh, i’ve been X-nay on aaaaacohol-yay for two-weeks” . And… KIDS WHAT A SIGH…
oh I was so happy to be able to have THAT conversation with him. And be OK GREAT! I’m SO Interested In hearing how I can be available… etc. without it .WHAT A SIGH
and ALSO Super grown-up sobriety point for me, I was great- I didn’t drink with him or on the weekend.
The “no- you go ahead, no problem” has not been something I have come to rely upon. So. I am
SO HAPPY ABOUT THIS WEEKEND,
because #$%^&*it. I want to allow myself to celebrate good things, too on this site.
I believe our beloveds will accomplish what they wish.
I am so happy to be in close communication- EVERY TIP… I am so grateful.
I’m sending a virtual gardenia to each of you.
My Time, and G-d’s time, universe time, muffin time…
still grateful. xo