It’s good to be in this space! My name is Yuqing Wu. First I’d like to share a bit about my family background: I came from a dysfunctional family. Although my parents got divorced when I was 13, I grew up feeling like an orphan due to neglect. My father was seriously psychologically impaired and was not able to really be there as a husband or dad. There were a lot of verbal abuse, physical violence and other dysfunctional behaviors. My mother tried her best to be a good wife and mother. But she was always the “weak” side in their dynamic and habitually succumbed to my father’s demands. She failed to stand up for herself or me.
So that was a bit about my family background. Luckily, a few years ago I was able to work with a great therapist in NYC and through slow and consistent work together, resolved most of my childhood traumas. So from someone who had social phobia, anxiety and depression, I was able to get transformed into a much more sociable and happier person.
I join this space with the hope that I can get support with helping my family members recover from traumas/addictions as well. As much as I hated my father for all his irresponsible and hurtful behaviors, deep down I still care about him as I know he cares about me too. However, when it comes to having contact with him, I find it challenging and exhausting because his acts are still triggering for me and I don’t want to go back to my old place.
I’m grateful for this space and hope to be supported, contribute, and learn with all of you!