The Newcomer's Welcome: What brings you to Village?

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#142

Extending a warm #WednesdayWelcome to our 15 new members this week: @anonymous18 @anonymous19 @Allie @david @jlynnshare @btp @Keli @Chance @Onedayatatime @sanddulr @Klover14 @AleLagarda97 @Blake @Bee @Nlgarrison :tada:

Friends, if you haven’t yet, please take 5 minutes to:

  1. Say ‘hi!’ on this thread & tell us how the Community can best support you.
  2. Find one question that you feel comfortable to answer! Every question or answer added honestly makes this place a more valuable resource for all .

Don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions! I’m here & happy to help!


#143

Hi! Thank you to this site for reaching out to me through Instagram. I am very new to all things support groups for those affected by loved ones choices in addiction. Im three months into Al-Anon for my qualifier’s alcohol addiction and previous opioid addiction. I’m having some difficulty finding time in my busy schedule to keep up with the topics on this site, read the literature, or just find time to do something for me.


#146

Hello, I learnt about the group on Instagram as I was searching for resources on how to support a loved one with an addition. It was just after my partner went into rehab which I found very difficult to cope with. I resisted joining the group for a few weeks, I somehow didn’t feel ready. But I am grateful for your following up on your first invitation to me and encouraging me to join. There is already quite a lot I have learnt and of course so much more to learn on how I can best be supportive as I continue walking this journey with my partner. Thank you again and I look forward to interacting with you all.


#145

So great to have you with us @jlynnshare. Take your time, there’s no rush.

This category of the site: Your Playbook shows our perspectives on key topics if that’s a nice place to start - you can just pick and choose from 12 topics which are most useful to you right now <3

Remember that healing takes time for them and for us :slight_smile: and we’ll be here with you through whatever comes up.

One thing that has helped me in the past is to focus on one thing maybe one goal for right now. Rome wasn’t built in a day and we’re not going to fix everything all at once - it’s a process!

Perhaps it might be something like:

  • strengthening yourself,
  • fretting less,
  • feeling more hope,
  • keeping things peaceful at home

or perhaps more focused on your loved one like

  • celebrating their wins,
  • bringing in one joyful activity into the week
  • or avoiding one particular trigger.

We can meet you wherever you’re at, support you to where you want to be. We have tips and some guides we can share relevant to your goal.

Do you think that would be helpful?

Or real simple, just by checking in on this site to read a bit whenever you can will help increase feelings of hope and knowledge that you’re not alone in this!

We do also offer calls with our amazing Coach @erica if you want to go deeper one to one :slight_smile:
Click here to find get a session.


#147

so glad we found one another :blush: and you decided to join us :heart:


#149

Extending a very warm #WednesdayWelcome to our 14 new members this week: @lizc74 @JanaeSorenson @macphees @Mommaofanaddict @Drfmis @Koollisa15 @afarrel @Momof3 @kc1283 @Laurag71 @Nasir_X @Helen_Griffen @Rachel @AdamJ!

If you haven’t yet, please take 5 minutes to:

  1. Say ‘hi!’ on this thread & tell us how the Community can best support you.
  2. Find one question that you feel comfortable to answer! Every question or answer added honestly makes this place a more valuable resource for all .

Don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions! I’m here & happy to help! :sun_with_face:


#148

Welcome @Keli! Glad you took up the invitation to join us here! I hope you continue to find information and support as your walk this journey with your partner.


#150

Hi! Just beginning the journey of recovery with my loved one as my spouse begins rehab. Very hard being away from him and not knowing what’s going on, but the resources here are already helping me understand him better. I should have started this earlier!


#151

So glad you’re with us @Rachel - remember what it was like when my husband went into rehab. How far is he into it now?


#153

He finishes detox today (after 3 days). Tomorrow starts the rehab portion (28ish days). It’s hard looking at the calendar and seeing how long he’ll be gone but I’m trying to focus on all the good that will come out of this investment of his time.

One tip I found really helpful in the playbook was focusing on the positive / good in him. It inspired me to write him a letter to him today detailing the wonderful things I see in him and the reasons I fell in love with him. It made me realize how much of that we’ve lost through this whole thing as we became absorbed in the fight around treatment. I wish I had tried that earlier. Because deep down, I know he’s a great person who is hurting and struggling. Sharing in case that inspires someone else.


#154

Love that @Rachel - so much - I want to post in it’s own thread if ok by you <3

It can be a tough time to wait and watch his transformation from a far but just take it one day at a time and know there’s so much healing going on <3 <3


#155

Extending a very warm #WednesdayWelcome to our 11 new members this week: @Koniantic @suzypuss63 @Clownfish @NLHope @Brandon_Jak_Cruz @Fiveliddles @MaryDMeyer @Kerry @voxwriter @Ladnav @Lauren!

If you haven’t yet, please take 5 minutes to:

  1. Say ‘hi!’ on this thread & tell us how the Community can best support you.
  2. Find one question that you feel comfortable to answer! Every question or answer added honestly makes this place a more valuable resource for all .

Don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions! I’m here & happy to help! :sun_with_face:


#156
  1. Hi I am Kerry, I lost my brother to overdose the day before Thanksgiving. My son, who has struggled with addiction to pain pills, found him on the bathroom floor and by early Jan was in treatment himself because his addiction rapidly progressed and turned to heroin. I need to be completely transparent because I am struggling bad with ALL of this considering I am a counselor and do addiction treatment. I am struggling with finding grief therapists to return my calls to schedule an appointment. I just need a no judgement place to process my loss and my grief

#157

Hi @Kerry so glad you’re with us here and we’re sending you all the love right now. @erica is available for calls via this link if that is useful for you :heart: but either way know that we are here for you. We are that no judgement place for you and for this rollercoaster of a journey. Share what you can and we’ll be here to listen :heart:

I know that @Chris and @nikki92394 have posted on loss before so giving a quiet shoutout in case they have any wisdom to share.


#158

Hi @Kerry, thanks for sharing and so happy you’re here. Like @jane said, feel free to reach out to me 1:1. I can relate to your situation, it’s so difficult to be in the industry and love someone who is suffering. For now I hope this space provides you with a little of what you need, zero judgement :yellow_heart:


#159

Thanks so much for the warm welcome! My adult daughter is a heroin addict, struggling with recovery at the moment. It’s surely been a rollercoaster . Thanks a bunch for having this wonderful group that is very much needed.


#160

So glad you’re here with us :heart: gets more wonderful with each who joins @Ladnav!


#161

Extending a very warm #WednesdayWelcome to our 10 new members this week: @Suzm @dcarr4 @Amanda_Bartlett @randalta @TheGardenSage @gina1014 @dmoh @Wendy @BreakinBad74 @livenlikelarz

If you haven’t yet, please take 5 minutes to:

  1. Say ‘hi!’ on this thread & tell us how the Community can best support you.
  2. Find one question that you feel comfortable to answer! Every question or answer added honestly makes this place a more valuable resource for all .

Don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions! I’m here & happy to help! :sun_with_face:


#162

Extending a very warm #WednesdayWelcome to our 14 new members this week: @Sobercoaches4living @Bre @Katie84g @CaseyMarie1112 @Alice_Harvey @aduffy @Ffaks.alor @jackiemayxo @Nb.roxanne @Finleymae1256 @mayabee @Lindaz @Brenda @loualpert

If you haven’t yet, please take 5 minutes to:

  1. Say ‘hi!’ on this thread & tell us how the Community can best support you.
  2. Find one question that you feel comfortable to answer! Every question or answer added honestly makes this place a more valuable resource for all .

Don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions! I’m here & happy to help! :sunflower:


#163

My name is Donna and my life partner has been in and out of addiction for many years. Our ways of dealing with this have been many so im seeking a community where I can gain knowledge ask questions and just not feel alone