The Newcomer's Welcome: What brings you to Village?

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#209

Warm #WednesdayWelcome to our 10 new members this week:
If you haven’t yet, please take 5 minutes to: @Carly @SadMom91 @Mmoore @Automatikjoy @dont_wanna_say @tleo121413 @AEK2019 @Maggie1 @kosbo @Anne1

  1. Say ‘hi!’ on this thread & tell us how the Community can best support you.
  2. Find one question that you feel comfortable to answer! Every question or answer added honestly makes this place a more valuable resource for all .

Also, tonight is our weekly meetup hosted online.
This meetup is for you if you are someone who is:

  • looking for support and hope in loving someone through addiction or recovery
  • wanting to see them build healthier habits and make healthier choices
  • thinking they could benefit from some more professional care or treatment
  • you might even be feeling you’ve tried everything to try to get them into treatment
    If you feel any of the above or just want to be among those who get it and feel hopeful again, please join us tonight. RSVP HERE and you’ll receive the dial in details and materials for tonight’s meetup.
    This knowledge and support is powerful and is designed for Y O U !

We’re always here to talk one-one if preferred, and please do let me know if there’s a way we can be more helpful for you.
All my best,
Jane


#210

Warm #WednesdayWelcome to our 4 new members this week:
If you haven’t yet, please take 5 minutes to: @pdefranc @Kimmie @Froo @barbaraberg

  1. Say ‘hi!’ on this thread & tell us how the Community can best support you.
  2. Find one question that you feel comfortable to answer! Every question or answer added honestly makes this place a more valuable resource for all .

Also, tonight is our weekly meetup hosted online.
This meetup is for you if you are someone who has wondered how to handle a loved one’s relapse in recovery, join us tonight to know how to think about it, when to be concerned, and what actions to take - useful knowledge and skills for you, no matter where your loved one is at right now.

We’re always here to talk one-one if preferred, and please do let me know if there’s a way we can be more helpful for you.
All my best,
Jane


#211

Warm #WednesdayWelcome to our 11 new members this week:
If you haven’t yet, please take 5 minutes to: @Diane_Power_Peecher @Danielapa3 @samanthalutz @Kbremiller @Alananccc @Peggy_H @BlingEternity @ronbo @Chrissy_Chillino @melbrew @trmoody71

  1. Say ‘hi!’ on this thread & tell us how the Community can best support you.
  2. Find one question that you feel comfortable to answer! Every question or answer added honestly makes this place a more valuable resource for all .

Also, tonight is our weekly meetup hosted online.
This meetup is for you if you want to get grounding in the most fundamental tool that underpins our ability to stay connected to a loved one in addiction or recovery and engage others in supporting us and their recovery. It’s called Positive Communication and we hope you’ll join us for it - simply register HERE and we’ll talk tonight :slight_smile:

If you’re ready to feel better, more hopeful and confident about your role in all of this - regardless of where they are at and their ups and downs - then you’ll want to consider enrolling in our full course curriculum and support this time around. You can do so HERE.

The enrollment window is now open and it kicks off next week. You’ll get the full course curriculum which includes the fundamental skills designed for you, group meetups, one-ones that tailor the topics to your situations and equally important - the practices to heal your nervous system from the chronic worry and stress. All this will serve you for life, knowing recovery is a winding road.

We’re always here to talk one-one if preferred, and please do let me know if there’s a way we can be more helpful for you.
All my best,
Jane


#217

Hello! I’m here to focus on & stay in touch with my recovery; enabling & co-dependency. Not go back to my old habits. I hope to meet & learn from the other wives that have gone before me. Liz


#212

Hello, I am Tia Renee Moody. I am a substance abuser. I have never liked myself. I want to release myself to live; forgive myself to love; forget myself to enjoy…

I am grateful for this community because I need help along this recovering journey to living life to the fullest.


#218

Thanks for sharing @BlingEternity - great to have you with us! Anyone in your support network you’d like to invite in here? It helps to have those who are motivated to support us on the same page!


#219

Warm #WednesdayWelcome to our 12 new members this week:
If you haven’t yet, please take 5 minutes to: @sandet @dgbc @equanimity @ollie @cadkins430 @ann4 @Amandee @Debbie_McConnell @Minoucue @kkay1216 @Julieb @jtswanny47

  1. Say ‘hi!’ on this thread & tell us how the Community can best support you.
  2. Find one question that you feel comfortable to answer! Every question or answer added honestly makes this place a more valuable resource for all .

Also, tonight we host our weekly meetup online and I’d love to invite you to join for it.
This meetup is for you if you want to get grounding in the most fundamental tool that underpins our ability to stay connected to, feel better ourselves and help a loved one in addiction or recovery and engage others in supporting us and their recovery. It’s called Positive Communication and we hope you’ll join us for it - simply register HERE and we’ll talk tonight :slight_smile:

If you’re ready to feel better, more hopeful and confident about your role in all of this - regardless of where they are at and their ups and downs - then you’ll want to consider enrolling in our full course curriculum and support this time around. You can do so HERE.

The enrollment window is now open and it kicks off next week. You’ll get the full course curriculum which includes the fundamental skills designed for you, group meetups, one-ones that tailor the topics to your situations and equally important - the practices to heal your nervous system from the chronic worry and stress. All this will serve you for life, knowing recovery is a winding road.

We’re always here to talk one-one if preferred, and please do let me know if there’s a way we can be more helpful for you.
All my best,
Jane


#213

Thanks so much for sharing Tia <3 we are a community with loved ones in addiction recovery and know how hard the recovery road is but that it is also possible and worth it. I hope you get something out of being a part of this community <3


#220

Sending out a Warm #WednesdayWelcome to our 8 new members this week:
If you haven’t yet, please take 5 minutes to: @Lesia26 @Kzoss618 @Emerald_McLeod @ericka21 @joan4554 @Brian_Porter @Jimmy @kiki

  1. Say ‘hi!’ on this thread & tell us how the Community can best support you.
  2. Find one question that you feel comfortable to answer! Every question or answer added honestly makes this place a more valuable resource for all .

Also, tonight we host our weekly meetup online and it’s the perfect way to get a sense of what Village has to offer to you in your journey alongside a loved one’s addiction and recovery, so I’d love to invite you to join for it.
Join us TONIGHT: WEDNESDAY SEPTEMBER 25th 6pm EST // Village Digital Gathering: Roadmap to Behavior Change - finally know when and techniques as to how to interrupt harmful behavior.

Register to join the meetup HERE and you’ll receive the dial in details plus the materials and skills you’ll learn with us.

Learning where we can take action around a loved one’s addiction recovery is incredibly empowering. You’ll walk away from this meetup with a new tool to know when and where and how to reduce harmful habitual behaviors.

If you’ve wondered how to step in to reduce the harm of a loved one’s use or habits then this is the meetup for you.

Also since we’re back at the beginning again, nows the perfect time to sign up for our 9-pack to get the Core Village Curriculum through our 9 weeks of group topic meetups at a 20% Village member discount. Don’t wait! Jump on this today to get the good knowledge before the holidays :slight_smile:

Get your great value 9-pack now HERE!

We’re always here to talk one-one if preferred, and please do let me know if there’s a way we can be more helpful for you.
All my best,
Jane


#221

Sending out a Warm #WednesdayWelcome to our 10 new members this week:
If you haven’t yet, please take 5 minutes to: @Kara_Thompson @Jenna_Hayfield @Katherine_H_Turner @delairmom @Williamsv @Kacycee @littleb @Erica1 @Dcrandell23 @portlandia

  1. Say ‘hi!’ on this thread & tell us how the Community can best support you.
  2. Find one question that you feel comfortable to answer! Every question or answer added honestly makes this place a more valuable resource for all .

Also, please join us tonight for our weekly online group meetup!

Tonight we tackle:
The Antidote to Enabling - using Positive Reinforcement and allowing for Natural Consequences.

We’ll be teaching topics based on evidence-based trainings, specifically:

  • how to determine when to step in,

  • what actions to take

  • and when it is best to allow natural consequences to occur.

The mix of knowledge and skills are proven to improve your loved one’s recovery outcomes. Can’t wait to share more with you!

For easy access RSVP: HERE
Talk tonight!
Jane


#222

I’m here because my partner of a year and a half recently relapsed and was in the hospital for an overdose. I thought he had been clean through our whole relationship but during this experience I learned he relapsed earlier this year while he was out of town. I know relapse is part of recovery so I’m trying not to feel angry but it’s so hard. I just want to learn how to set healthy boundaries and stick to them.


#223

Thanks for being here @portlandia - many of us have been through these kinds of ups and downs so please know you’re among friends. We also have a weekly topic meetup specifically around boundaries in the upcoming weeks so you’ll want to join for that! To get a taste we’d love to have you join us tonight too :slight_smile:


#224

Hello, I’m Erica and I decided I needed to find a community of others dealing with an addicted loved one. I’ve been on this Journey for a very long time. Started with a parent, then spouse and then a child. It’s been awhile since I’ve been engaged with any recovery group and it’s time I begin again. I look forward to learning and being of help to others as well.


#225

I like many others was the epitome of naive to the strength of grasp heroin addiction can truly hold onto someone struggling with addiction with. I had no concept. Never had a reason to be educated about heroin, heroin addiction, etc.

Then my boyfriend of 3 yrs (1.5 yrs at the time I discovered his secret life of using) came clean to me after a long time of my not understanding what was causing our relationship to be SO DARN FREAKING HARD. Why could we no longer get on the same page with one another? We used to with such ease and effortlessness.

I was gullible and thought since he told me that he’d swoop right into recovery. And he did. Heroin Anonymous, sponser, all the things… for about a month. Then the behavior snuck back in. Little by little.

I finally told his mom of his drug addiction. But he’s now using her as a tool against me. Pulling the strings and telling his own narrative. An untrue narrative.

I stay hyperfocused on him, his behaviors, his mannerisms, his whereabouts, etc. I’ve lost myself and my own sense of agency within all of this. At no fault to anyone but myself. I get that. But I don’t know how to disconnect from the cognitive dissonance I experience trying to “disassociate the person from the addiction”. It’s so hard for me.

I’ve tried compassion, grace, kindness, empathy, threatening, ultimatums, shaming, guilting, blaming, begging, pleading, rage, etc. And NOTHING gets through to him. No matter what he’s saying to my face, there’s a calculated reason for it that benefits his agenda.

I don’t know what else to do. How else to handle this. I don’t want to up and leave. If the shoe was on the other foot, I’d hope someone would stick with me through such a relentless battle. But, at what point does loving him become too heavy? At what point do I run out of love and energy? Is there a threshold I’ll come to? When will that be? Why can’t I seem to get support from his friends and family? Like this isn’t a big deal? Like he couldn’t potentially lose his life. Like that’s not actually very likely to happen?

I’m discouraged, disappointed in him and myself for being such a pushover and falling for his lies even when my heart is screaming to me to not believe him. I’m exhausted. I’m scared for him but also in a selfish way I’m scared this is my life now. Because I am too chicken to leave for fear for him and also due to my own codependency to him and my fear of being alone.


I’m excited to have stumbled across this site. First time I’ve seen anything like this strictly for the family, partner, friends dealing with addicted loved ones.


#227

Sending out a Warm #WednesdayWelcome to our 11 new members this week:
If you haven’t yet, please take 5 minutes to: @Eric @JoLa @Katherine_H_Turner @Ibogaine-Supplier @blackheartedqueen @Sweetiepie @researcher @Mamas_regab @Jason_Down @KristinaRepp @Laceytbowen

  1. Say ‘hi!’ on this thread & tell us how the Community can best support you.
  2. Find one question that you feel comfortable to answer! Every question or answer added honestly makes this place a more valuable resource for all .

Also, please join us tonight for our weekly online group meetup!

Tonight we tackle:
Boundaries - Learning where to protect ourselves is important to surviving the long addiction recovery journey and to providing any support to our loved ones. You’ll gain a positive outline for how to set boundaries that work for you and your loved one from this meetup.

For easy access RSVP: HERE
Talk tonight!
Jane


#226

@Laceytbowen thank you for joining us here and sharing - you are among peers here and I’m sure many of us can relate to what you’re going through. I look forward to getting to know you more through this community site and our weekly meetups :slight_smile:


#228

Hi all! Thank you @jane for the welcome! I found you all via Instagram… following your posts etc… my brother passed away from in February from an accidental opiate overdose which we later found was mostly fentanyl. I founded a NPO to try and connect families and the bereaved to resources that can help them in their journey of supporting a loved who is in active addiction, recovery, or sadly has lost their battle. Thank you for your welcome and allowing me to be part of this community :heart:️:purple_heart:


#231

Thanks for being here and sharing @KristinaRepp :slight_smile: :heart: again - so sorry to hear about your brother, sending all of the love.


#229

@KristinaRepp It’s wonderful to have you here and to meet you via the internet. My heart goes out to you and your story. I hope you are able to find that everyone is here for you on We the Village. Please reach out to me if you ever need a listening friend!! I might not be able to directly related to your situation but I am more than willing to listen. Always!


#232

Grateful for you @Laceytbowen and your very very kind support :heart: