My adult son decided to self-detox from Suboxone because he was tired of using it after about 5 years. Everything is “do it himself” and he went to a friend’s house over about a week and accomplished that. There was a period of several weeks where he experienced sobriety. We met outside at a park for Mother’s Day, at his suggestion. He had gotten a haircut, bought clothes, and looked like he was doing well.
But he sounded like he was back on drugs when I talked to him briefly recently, and he was of course busy and had to go.
There is a boot camp for coding that he wants to do in a few weeks and he doesn’t want to go into treatment such as rehab because he says he’s focused on that.
He lost his job because they wanted to drug test him & he refused. He has mostly broken up with his girlfriend. But he is not at a point of wanting help, still. We said he couldn’t come home - for a variety of reasons - so he is staying at a friend’s house.
I have become quite successful at detaching from him and his problems. I have a full life of my own, and I have been able to let go of regrets for the most part. I know I don’t control his addiction or his recovery. But if something bad happens, I will feel very guilty and responsible, like I should have done more to help him. But what would that be, that I haven’t already tried? Is it really the best choice to interfere in his life? I feel like we’ve been doing that (my husband and I) and if anything, it has shielded him from experiencing the consequences of his addiction.