Something that mentionedin this post made me think about how something I’m doing must be making it hard for dad to speak honestly. He always tells me, “I’m good. All’s good.” Even when it feels like that might not be the case - that he’s in pain in some way (lonely, sad, stressed), not even substance related.
It’s like we need to backtrack after having focused so much energy on his addiction that now he thinks (I’m hypothesizing here!) anything he says might be turned into an addiction talk instead of me truly wanting to listen to, empathize with, and support him - so he just keeps its surface level. (Does that make any sense? )
My question to @addictability (and all) is: even when you felt like you moved past the surface, and you shared truthfully about your pain/suffering, did you truly believe your fiance would love you despite your troubles? What about her listening & communication was effective?