My wife went into rehab in feb for first time for 28 days. I knew her drinking was getting progressively works About 3 years ago. She suffers from ptsd from her her college years that’s she has never dealt with so drinking has been her crutch. She relapsed several times , and the last time I had to call the police and they brought her to hospital. That was the last straw , I needed help and reached out to her parents , she is with them now for almost a month and she also relapsed with them. It’s been 2 weeks now she’s sober she’s seems strong and wants be to drive 16 hours with our cats and come stay with her through the summer and rent a place where she is. She seems to be in a good mental state. Me on the other hand I have noticed myself feeling depressed, not wanting to get out of bed and feeling like crap. A pandemic, losing my job does not help. I’m trying to work on myself been attending zoom al-anon meetings and working on that. Cleaning out our apartment, because I don’t know if where we live in nyc is the best place for my wife, we still need to keep the apartment because we have some things to handle. She is working from her folks house on computer but eventually will have to return to NY. I guess my question is , should I leave NYC and go be with her down south and work on our marriage or should I stay in NY and continue to work on myself? I don’t want her to feel like I’m giving up on us.
Thanks , M