My boyfriend has been in treatment since late September and is supposed to come home on Nov. 12th. I am excited, but nervous! Lately, he has been more distant. When I asked him why he has been that way, he said he can’t constantly think about me when he’s trying to get better. I’m not going to lie, that statement made me worried about when he comes home. I’m afraid he will not be as committed in the relationship because he will be too worried about himself, his recovery.
I know it sounds selfish, but now I am thinking about what is going to happen to me. We currently live at his parents house, and I am thinking of getting a place for my BF & I for a couple of months. He agreed to it, but said he wants to slowly transition into the place. But also, I want a place for myself in case he does push me away. I know he has a lot on his plate, but so do I.
I’m wondering what I can do to ease my nerves for his homecoming. I don’t want him to fall into his old ways and I also don’t want to get hurt. I’ve been thinking about going to Al-Anon meetings for myself and possibly doing the 12 steps. I know he wants to continue AA meetings when he comes home and do the 12 steps. I think if we do it together, it would bond us.
Any tips or tricks or even comments to calm my mind!? xx