How do I stop using his mistakes against him?


I need help with myself on this one. I often times use mistakes my husband has made against him or throw things in his face. Sometimes it isn’t intentional, but sometimes I just want to make him realize what all I have done or how he makes me feel, etc. I know this is not helpful and is most likely only hurting situations, especially when he is in the midst of a relapse. I just need some techniques to learn and utilize on normal, good days, and also on nights after he comes over after getting high.