My dad has tremendous anxiety. He takes xanax (prescribed) and also drinks, which she says “calms him down.” Several doctors, including one very recently, told him to see a therapist. His anxiety is affecting his physical health. And I worry that the xanax and alcohol use are only making it worse because he won’t talk to anyone about anything thats bothering him, he just sits around all day complaining about how anxious he is. I feel selfish and awful that I’ve been where he’s been and yet I can’t show him compassion and empathy because it just makes me feel anxious. His anxiety fills the air around him and I keep absorbing it. I’ve tried talking to him, relating to him, given suggestions, etc.
I can’t seem to take my own advice on this matter and I just don’t know. Is there anything I can do? Or do I need to just leave it be and work on my own stuff?