Hi guys. So my boyfriend is in a halfway house for recovery of opiates/heroin. This house works the 12 step program and 90 meetings in 90 days. Therefore, to stay in the house he is required to attend at least 1 AA/NA/CA meeting per day. He also has a sponsor who is in the house and has worked his steps and achieving long term sobriety.
However, the other day my boyfriend and I were talking and he said that after he is done in the house he most likely won’t continue with AA. He says that he rarely gets anything useful out of the meetings and doesn’t find them fulfilling. He also mentioned that he has no respect for him current sponsor. So I asked if he was going to switch his sponsor. He told me that he doesn’t really utilize his sponsor anyways and that it would be pointless to switch (he has finished his 12 steps).
I then asked him how he plans to stay sober long term if not AA and a sponsor. His answer was that he needs to do things that are fulfilling and gave examples like going back to school, getting a dog, getting into hobbies.
This worries me because I feel like those aren’t ways of recovery when life gets tough. What are your thoughts on the matter?