Have you made a scene in public about or to stop your loved one's substance use? How do you handle it in public?

alcohol

#1

My husband’s drinking isn’t great but isn’t the worst of evils (his DOC was cocaine). Anyway, it’s not too bad but he can’t really help himself get started sometimes, particularly in social gatherings, and when he does start he doesn’t have that filter to stop. I hate making a scene but last night at dinner I did cut in and tell the waitress and him that he didn’t need another beer. #awkward.


#2

My dad and I were out to lunch shortly after I suspected he relapsed (living apart from a parent makes it hard to tell what’s what sometimes). He was all foggy-eyed and not really “in” the conversation, and I asked him straight up if he was using again. Ended up finding him caught in a lie, and I lost it. I have a pretty soft voice, so my “yelling” volume really isn’t that loud - but I was yelling and saying, “I can’t freaking do this again! Blah blah.” A total scene.

Overall not my proudest (or most tactful) moment.