Does anyone else's substance use increase in reaction to your loved one's substance use?

self-care

#1

I find when my husband uses more I use more. Sometimes I think I do so to decrease his destruction (eg. if I have half the bottle of wine then he can only have half) and sometimes it’s definitely to prove a point…though not very productive (eg. ‘fine, if you’re going to cause destruction to yourself, I can do the same.’)

Anyone else experienced this?


#2

Yeah I see this to a little! When he is using, I want to be destructive - smoke, drink, etc. I think destructive behavior brings out other destructive behavior. It’s learning how to cope with it and go towards the positive that is the difference!


#3

Yes! Since my sister’s addiction several years ago, I too have started drinking more. I have cut back a lot in the past few months and am working on not going back to where I was last year. It is a daily struggle for me. I can be on the phone at work or talking with people and I think of my sister and tears come to my eyes and I have to fight the emotional devil. Sometimes I wonder if I too have become a “recreational” alcoholic since this started.


#4

Thank goodness I’m not alone in this :blush: thanks for sharing


#5

I relate to this - my relationship to alcohol is much different now having weathered many storms next to my husband and his addictions!