My husband is spiraling down, down, down after he moved out in April and divorce proceedings have begun. For a bit in the beginning (through June), we had been trying to work on things, however it turns out he is also addiction to pornography and has been using paid subscriptions to dating websites to attract women for their “likes”. Needless to say, the divorce is moving forward now, but I have these days where I am wavering in the “Should I give him another try? Do we just need more marriage therapy? etc.” when I know full well, that he has not even begun recovery again, he has been treating me terribly, and its not going to work unless he resolves some of his own issues.
I guess my question is, for those who have left their addicted loved ones, how did you let go of these thoughts?